• TheDoozer@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      In fairness, I think that’s more like the whole “mid-life crisis” cliche, which is actually just people reaching the point in their life they can afford the things they’ve always wanted (without going into crippling debt) and not some desire to relive their youth (my "mid-life crisis will be an expensive leather massage chair).

      I think even in a good relationship, the men who do that may not have had the time or available funds to pursue those hobbies (and in a bad relationship, may have been deliberately kept from them). It’s like going on a sushi kick after a breakup with an ex who hated sushi.

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      10 months ago

      That is a very healthy way to deal with the sads!

      I just cry and blob until I’m crying less and blobbing less.

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        10 months ago

        Oh man. I mean if it works it works. After the breakup I just realized how much free time I actually have and that I can get some shit done. Honestly, either that relationship was very bad, or being in a relationship is a scam.

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          10 months ago

          I don’t know what I’m doing differently then, because I’ve never been in a relationship where I felt I couldn’t do what I wanted to do. Though I’m also not a man nor straight so

          If I were in a relationship where I couldn’t do the things I wanted to do, or do those things together, than that just seems like a bad fit…?