There’s no freedom in having to do something but you’re also not free to choose your wants.
Maybe it’s better to just live and let life happen instead of thinking about what could’ve been. What ever happened is the only thing that could’ve happened.
I agree. I do appreciate the spirit of OP’s comment, that we are agents. I observe a lot of people who blame everything but themselves for their circumstances, and take responsibility for nothing.
However, sometimes you get the meteorite, and sometimes the meteorite gets you; we’re none of us 100% in control of our fates.