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  • exactly.

    I’m going through the bible right now actually and I’m kind of tempted to livetweet it (well, toot since it’s mastodon). I just got through the bit where Abraham lets the Egyptian Pharaoh cuckhold him for money then gets kicked out of Egypt when the pharaoh finds out Abraham isn’t is only Sarah’s half brother but is also definitely married to her and that’s why everybody in Pharaohs house is cursed. The best part is Abraham keeps the money though, so at least letting his half-sister cuck him pays off in the end. Then there’s this:

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    I really wish there was a good Christian community on here I was raised fundie and I’ve really been getting back to my roots and I’m having the absolute BEST time.


  • Yeah I had a coworker tell me she couldn’t personally justify using hormonal birth control because she read that it’s possible for it to prevent a fertilized embryo from adhering to the uterine lining but like:

    1. I would want to read the source because while it actually seems pretty likely that it could, it also seems like it’s pretty likely that lifting more than 30lb at a time could too.
    2. I find “it’s a person from fertilization” arguments to be completely missing the point anyway. I actually happen to think it’s a person from fertilization, I just don’t think it has inherent rights to use another human being’s body as life support without their consent.

    Arguments about at what point it becomes a human being or has human rights are all just emotion-inducing distractions to shift the conversation away from the actual discussion of bodily autonomy and consent. We don’t forcibly rip skin off of dad when the baby gets burns, or hold him down and bleed him when the baby needs a transfusion, and we all agree it’s a person at that point. Whether or not the fetus is a person is irrelevant to the conversation. Getting people to say they don’t think it’s a person is just another way to maintain it as a political issue: “look they don’t think babies are people!”

    They also don’t want to have that conversation because if the argument becomes about what kindnesses and service they owe to their fellow humans in general, they become uncomfortable very quickly.


  • Its literally just a high dose of normal hormonal birth control btw. So it’s just a more effective in an emergency but slightly less safe version. Letting y’all know in case somebody tries to tell you CVS is selling abortions now.

    Also don’t use it as regular birth control. If you find yourself using it a bunch you probably need to look into better types of birth control. If the problem is specifically that your partner is interfering with or preventing you from using normal hormonal birth control (and especially if you need something undetectable while you work out an exit strategy) you should try to talk to a doctor about the depo provera shot. It’s like a flu shot and once it’s in it’s undetectable for the three months it’s effective for. And even if he did somehow find out you got it, he can’t cut or rip it out like he could with an implant.

    (I accidentally pulled my own IUD out, and I’m pretty sure my gyn was lowkey convinced my boyfriend did it. Apparently that’s a thing.)




  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoNot The Onion@lemmy.worldConception begins at ejaculation
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    My favorite part is that if you actually read this story it’s not even about masturbation, it’s about how shitty it is to try and rules-lawyer your way out of doing the right thing.

    Onan’s brother died and left a childless widow. In Jewish culture at that time, as a widow, she would’ve needed a son to collect the inheritance / be taken care of, etc. The workaround (in lieu of not being misogynists given that these were ye olden times) was that your brother in law would knock you up and that kid would legally count as your dead husband’s for the purposes of inheritance.

    But Onan thinks he’s reeeaaaal clever and figures if she just magically can’t get pregnant, he could just keep all that land, tents, horses, and whatever else. So he just keeps pulling out, she never gets pregnant and figures he’s home free and puts his brother’s widow out on the street to become a prostitute. There’s some specific symbolic way that he gets his divine comeuppance for all this but I can never remember that part.

    This was just the example my childhood pastor used to like using when he explained the problems with just letting someone else tell you what the Bible means instead of reading it for yourself. The man was very educated and gave a lot of sermons on the historical cultural context of a lot of the texts. In fact I’m pretty sure all of my childhood pastors had Master’s degrees.

    This is also the same guy that founded the interfaith community in my city to promote cultural exchange and coordinated charity efforts. Basically Fred Rogers’ spiritual twin was my childhood pastor; if they weren’t alive at the same time it would have me believing in reincarnation (they even looked similar and were even both Presbyterian).

    The man had a congregation in the hundreds and he knew the name of every person in every family, what their jobs were, what their kids were studying in college, and if they had any sick relatives, and would stand by the gate at the end of every service shaking every single persons hand and chatting about that stuff for a minute or two each. When my brother died he was on our doorstep within an hour of the cops notifying us. Regardless of how my personal spiritual beliefs have waxed or waned at various points it took me a looong time to understand how someone in that position could hurt people through either malice or incompetence.


  • I don’t have the original I wrote in college but it kinda makes me want to redraft A Modest Proposal: for Men’s Anatomical Responsibility to Their Offspring. The key point is that men should be required to provide anatomical gifts to their offspring until the children become adults. These anatomical gifts include any transplantable organ from kidneys, livers, and lungs, to blood, skin, corneas, and possibly even limbs as that becomes a viable surgical procedure. The increased time and gravity of the gift is balanced by the decreased likelihood, and by only taking organs and tissues not essential to life (while a pregnancy can in some cases cause heart failure). All exceptions (rape, incest, etc) are welcome to be made to whatever extent they are also made for women. Any additional thoughts?





  • Same with writing and image generation. It can give you ideas or handle little details like making sure all your commas are in the right place, the formatting is cohesive, and that you used the right your / you’re, or filling in grass or sky textures in the background or putting a bit of polish on a finished image but it definitely requires some editing to get a truly cohesive final result.