My recent ex girlfriend would take certain things we were about to do together (traveling, going to the spa, going to a particular restaurant close to my house, spending the day at a museum, etc.) and would just automatically assume that I had already done that same thing with some unspoken past ex of mine, and get preemptively sad, upset, and self-conscious that she wasn’t “the first”… What? Life isn’t all about firsts, why even get upset about that? So what if I’ve already done something before with someone else, I am still going to enjoy it with YOU right NOW. Maybe a lot of people do compare past experiences to current ones, but I don’t find that very fulfilling, so I just don’t. It’s a lot easier to just live day to day.
Yes! You can do the same thing many times, but that same thing has the potential to be very different each time!
Experience it with different people, with different levels of life-wisdom, with a differently aged body and mind, within differnet cultures, etc etc! So many factors, so many possibilities!
My recent ex girlfriend would take certain things we were about to do together (traveling, going to the spa, going to a particular restaurant close to my house, spending the day at a museum, etc.) and would just automatically assume that I had already done that same thing with some unspoken past ex of mine, and get preemptively sad, upset, and self-conscious that she wasn’t “the first”… What? Life isn’t all about firsts, why even get upset about that? So what if I’ve already done something before with someone else, I am still going to enjoy it with YOU right NOW. Maybe a lot of people do compare past experiences to current ones, but I don’t find that very fulfilling, so I just don’t. It’s a lot easier to just live day to day.
Yes! You can do the same thing many times, but that same thing has the potential to be very different each time!
Experience it with different people, with different levels of life-wisdom, with a differently aged body and mind, within differnet cultures, etc etc! So many factors, so many possibilities!
I think your attitude is a good one to have. Comparison is the thief of joy or whatever the saying is.