“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence.”
This post was reported. I agree it can come across as a bit agressive and arrogant.
I think the other commenters are doing a good job of pointing out the many perspectives on this post so I won’t take action for now.
Thank you, Mod.
“Boop.”
But also, I think similarly for commenting online.
90% of the time, I type out a comment, only to hit cancel and move on. It’s surprisingly cathartic.dOn’T tAlK uNlEsS yOu CaN iMpRoVe ThE sIlEnCe
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Says the person who deliberately called themselves sweet fart
I read some piece of advice a while back (on lemmy I think) about when to talk, “Does it need said? Does it need said right now? Does it need said by you?” and it really stuck with me.
I’m definitely a talker, and my friends and family will talk all day. But I know my partner can find it a bit much, so having a basic rule has been surprisingly helpful. I might want to tell him about the intresting thing that I read, but does he really want to hear that? We might need to talk about something important but stressful, maybe bringing it up just before bed isn’t the best idea?
It is all pretty obvious stuff, but I spent three decades only really spending time with people who talked all the time too. I didn’t need to worry about bringing something up at the wrong time, because if I did, they would immediately say “oh I don’t want to talk about that because…” and explain or change the subject. I didn’t worry about a conversation being uninteresting, because if it was we’d quickly tangent into something that worked for us both.
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People are bagging on your comment because it could seem really smug out of context, but …
I have lately finally learned the lesson that when I feel the urge to give advice, it is my brains fucked up way of telling me what I need to be doing too.
This new realization means I now leave many more things unsaid, and it seems to be working as a better social strategy.
don’t tell me what to do. i just took a massive shit.
Improve it for who?
This reads like it belongs to a facebook or linkedin post.
That’s why I stfu in public.
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I just saw your post during a meeting and I’m about to apply this mantra now
Yes, but what is an improvement if silence. If I want to gossip about neighbour a with neighbour b, is that better than silence? It is to my mom.
I think it’s an introvert vs extrovert thing. For introverts, silence is the default and lots of talking is draining. For extroverts, silence is unnerving and makes them uncomfortable, and conversations energises them.
