Historically they didn’t give a fuck about a lot of things until they are searching for reasons to hate someone or a group of people.
Take drag performance… drag is an ANCIENT tradition in Western theater that goes back into Ancient Greece. Name a comedian active in the black and white film era and I will show you a drag performance they made. Laurel and Hardy, the Three Stooges, they all did it, and exactly no one told them it was wrong.
even the services did drag shows, until it became too much associated with trans people.
Don’t make the mistake of assuming the stances they take and the words they use are genuine arguments given in good faith. They will manipulate language and make claims just to achieve their own ends. They don’t care about consistency. There is no goalpost they won’t move. You can’t convince them they are wrong using words.
Change your name to make yourself more palatable to a wider audience? Good.
Change your name to make yourself more palatable for yourself? Bad, apparently.
Pen names are ancient, too. Mark Twain? Real name is Samuel Clements. Charles Dickens used the pen name Boz for some reason, and Stephen King used multiple pen names, especially early in his career.
Uh, Boz was the illustrator for Dickens.
I was mistaken. Thank you for your correction.
And still affects no one. People bitching about stuff that has literally nothing to do with them, worrying about everyone else’s genitals.
Going back a ways bigots had a problem with both Muhammad Ali (Cassius Clay) and Kareem Abdul Jabbar (Lew Alcindor) but were fine with John Wayne (Marion Morrison).
Actors and actresses have to register their name with a guild and sometimes change it because it is too close to another previous actor’s name or they don’t want to show their nepo roots or whatever reason.
So to just skip that problem they make up a registered stage name. Not that it lends any more authenticity but rather there is a structural professional reason that they do that.
And I have no problem with people using any name as long as they don’t mock me for needing help spelling it.
i suspect its more of hiding thier nepotism.
the vast majority of actors probably earn less than four figures a year.
pretty much, they are willing to do it
They don’t seem to mind that JD Vance has had a bunch of different names.
I would call myself JD too if my parents named me Jerkin Dapenis as well.
“JV Dunce”
Or that he’s referred to a JD.
Tommy Robinson, JK Rowling …give me a bit, I’ll think of more.
The name is never the problem, it’s that the person with the name exists that people get so butt hurt about
this dint start until conservatives,right wing groups started pushing the anti-trans narrative. which was pretty recent, like within 5-10years. nobody gave a poop about it til trumps 1st term. Now everyone is either afraid, or freaks out over names that should be ONE sex or the other, or gendered, plus this also applies to characther names in movies and shows. there was one trek show that made it forced and wierd, like that is making statement.
It is pretty arbitrary which names we consider masculine and which names we consider feminine. On Big Brother Canada, there was a man named Hope. A man named Ashley works as a writer for Marvel Studios.
And we cannot forget one of the best comedy actors of all time, Leslie Neilson
Who also has astonishing range, too. He was a serious actor before Airplane. Since halloween is coming up, watch the 1982 movie Creepshow. There was a short with him in it (it is an anthology) and he very convincingly plays a murderous wealthy Creep.
Ashley used to primarily be a mans name
Ash from Evil Dead is a certified badass.
My wife knows my celebrity man crush is Bruce Campbell
Its okay to have a different name as long as your conservative.
Just ask Rafael Edward Cruz, famous Texas Magician who disappears everytime things go bad for his constituents.
All businesses choose a fake name to suit their identity. All business managers choose job titles to suit their identity.
Those who have a problem with transgender people are arrogant egotistical full-of-themselves narcicists who see others as lower class animals that exist only to be managed.
Damn, never thought about the fake ass job titles lol. I don’t even care what mine is. Good point. It’s all made up bullshit like country borders, people killing each other stepping over an invisible line.
What about people who have a problem with society moving quicker than science or medicine allows?
What is it about the trans community and talking in absolutes so often? I would think that trans people would be a more skeptical bunch but they are the ones banning people for asking clarifying questions on platforms like lemmy.
What do you mean by society moving quicker than science? Transgender people have existed before most scientific advancements. They existed in ancient Greece, they exist in Norse Mythology… They were persecuted in several government systems in the past such as Germany, they have always been here. It’s just that social media and the Internet brings more information to people than ever before. So instead of never having met a trans person in your life more people are being introduced to them than ever before. Which also means some people who may have never understood what was going on with themselves and why they felt so different than the boxes society around them was placing them into. I know I’m a guy, I was born one and have always been one. If you look at Women’s athletics, say the Olympics you will see many women that have naturally occuring high levels of testosterone that may be higher than your average male. You will also find men who have extremely low testosterone. So scientifically I see it as a blend that the hormones in our bodies have naturally created showing that what we define as man, and woman doesn’t encompass everything. Only when we try to put someone in a group do we start to think that there is something abnormal about a person having higher or lower testosterone. Then you can get into the facet of sexual parts. 1.7/100 people are born with intersexual traits. If we say a person has to be a man or a woman, then there is a 1.7% chance a person doesn’t fit into either box at birth. I see no reason that person shouldnt be able to live a happy life, not be treated the same as everyone else around them.
I’m not a trans person, I am not well educated on all of it because it isn’t something I had to educate myself on. But using that number there, scientifically there were 5.78 million people in the U.S. that were born outside the box of Man or Woman. To put that into perspective, 28 of the 50 states have less people in them, than the number of people born with intersex traits.
So when someone downplays them and acts like they shouldn’t exist, maybe it’s easier to look at it as saying all of a U.S. state shouldn’t exist simply because they were born there.
Note: most of this was focused on intersex, not gender… but I think it helps open the mind to understanding the world isn’t as man/woman as we often think of it.
I’m talking about whether we are actually helping trans people with science and medicine or not. We have moved too quickly and assumed too much and caused problems before. I know trans people exist, I dont know why everyone’s convinced the science is settled on how to make them happy and healthy though.
Try and bring up any negative side effects or analyze the risks of a procedure and trans people online take that as an attack against their whole community. I dont think trans people realize they are offending people who want to help them.
I think having a cute stage name is something people accept after you’re famous.
I’m gonna come in with maybe an unpopular hot take. I have no problems people being trans or choosing a name that suits your preferred gender, but–perhaps because of the repression earlier in life–it seems there is often an… aggressively creative search for names?
I know about 8 MtF people (0 FtM for some reason?), and they are not picking mainstream names like Mary, Samantha, or Norah for example. Eris, Athena, Cybelle, Malice, and Laika are 5 of the 8 names chosen. It’s not a problem, you pick it and I will use it, but it IS jarring. I’m not making excuses for transphobia because that’s stupid, but it is strange to me to ostensibly want to blend in with everybody else, but then choose a name that obviously marks you out? It’s like the line between choosing a name for your heroine DND character and for yourself is suddenly completely erased and it’s absolutely your right, but as an outsider it’s honestly kinda weird.
I support a parents right to pick names for their kids, but aeslyn and breeleigh and brandaeden are weird names. Same for people who pick their own names regardless of gender identity. If you pick a name that is kinda weird… well it’s kinda weird.
Coming up with a stage name is usually something that agents will tell their clients to do if their name sounds “too ethnic”. Happens when they are auditioning for roles, not when they get famous.
Random fact I heard the other day: Leonardo DiCaprio almost sent out headshots with a stage name at the advice of his agent, but his dad talked him out of it and told him to be proud of his name. I forget what they told him his stage name should be, but it was way more generic and forgettable than his real name.
Dang, we could have had Longboy DiCaprio. Or like Lyman or something.
If you pick a name that is kinda weird… well it’s kinda weird.
As a transperson with a weird name; I picked mine because I have never fit in, and instead of causing a desire to fit in, it made angry (but that might be because I am autistic as well, who knows). Choosing an unique name was kind of a middle finger and a final stamp of refusing to conform, if that makes any sense. If I’m not accepted anyway then I sure as hell am going to do whatever the fuck I want with my name and identity
It makes a ton of sense actually.
To make sure the line you quoted is giving you the right impression what I mean to say is if you pick a weird name well then it’s a weird name, not that it’s weird to pick it. You can’t guarantee everyone will like any name you pick no matter who you are, and you sure can’t force them to.
Oh yeah no, I think I get it. I just thought I’d add one perspective to why weird names might be so appealing to transfolks even though it can cause more issues than calling yourself Jean or something
What a silly argument. The name has to be on the list that you feel is an appropriate name for what ever gender were talking about. I feel you are perpetuating the problem.
So change your name to pupscent IRL?
You or anyone else can change their names to anything you want anytime; however, you can’t force people to like it.
Sure, if you want dream_weasel to like it, you can ask for the approved list. If you want to name yourself General Buttfuckingnaked you absolutely can, but if people don’t like it that’s YOUR problem. It isn’t trans insensitive to be weirded out by you naming yourself Incestte, it’s just a weird fucking name.
I feel like if you’re trying to mandate what people MUST like, you are CAUSING a problem. You can’t force me to say a black belt and brown pants and shoes go together because a trans person picked it, that is still a shitty choice. Names are same deal. Being trans doesn’t mean you are instantly exempt from every form of taste.
And PupScent.
The smell of a puppies breath when it’s still feeding from its mother.
There was a time when women could not wear pants. Men couldn’t have long hair. Bellbottoms,… well, enuf said.
There are always people who have issues with how others talked/behaved/looked etc. In each case I don’t think those people gave a shit if others liked it or not or they would have made a greater effort to be accepted by the masses.
I’m hearing from your posts that it’s important to be liked by others. I personally don’t give a shit if people like me or not. I’m not willing to take on that burden.
You get out of life what you put into it.
That comment is easy to say, but much harder to fully embrace. Life experiences have a way of teaching you this lesson.
I’m not sure what youre basing this allegory on. There’s nobody saying that trans folks (or anyone else) shouldn’t be able to pick whatever name they like. I’m not even saying that people SHOULD like any name and it frankly isn’t that important. It’s not like don’t wear pants or don’t grow long hair. What I AM saying is that if you choose a name that is offbeat and people don’t love it, like (whoopi, sure) that has nothing to do with being trans and having chosen a name that suits your gender identity, but rather with people having preferences about names that you can’t control.
The unspoken premise of the original post, which I disagree with, is that people don’t like some set of names because trans people pick them. Instead, surprised Pikachu, there are names people don’t really like. It’s not trans stigma, it’s filling your candy dish with black jelly beans and candy corn then saying, “people just don’t like my candy because I’m pupscent and they are all backward cynophobes”. If you like those candies then of course eat them, but let’s not call it stigma if other people don’t share your tastes.
chooses a name
Whoopi
Does it ever make you think that when her parents were having sex that one fateful night, they would later be able to look back upon it and say that they were making Whoopi?
Gotta hand it to her, it’s done wonders for recognition. No one’s mistaking the name.
I was only ok with the fake name of Guynan.
Whoopi suck. Guyana, helped picard saved humanity.
Guyuna is also the name of a country and region.
Ugh this is all wrong. It’s GUINAN. :)
And it’s not something new or anything like that. There are lots of cultures through history in which people choose their own names or alternate names throughout their life for a variety of reasons.
Popes change their names all the time.
The main difference is that nobody considers referring to Whoopi Goldberg as Caryn Elaine Johnson a hate crime.
I don’t think anyone considers calling someone by another name a crime, it’s just considered rude and non professional/business like. If I went into work and called someone I didn’t like by another random name all the time until the point it was making them feel uncomfortable, HR would come ask me to stop creating a less than ideal work environment and making my coworkers uncomfortable. If I refused to do so, I would expect the HR department to end my employment for that company. None of it is a hate crime, but people have a right to exist and be not be treated in a way you wouldn’t treat others.
